Monday, January 7, 2008 - TELL IT LIKE IT IS
I live in semi-suburbia San Gabriel, about ten miles east of downtown Los Angeles. I used to listen to a guy on the radio, named Michael Benner. He always spoke about personal development and basically about making your life easier to live. I’m not quite sure if he’s still on, but I remember one particular morning as I was driving alone in my car. He was talking about why presidents age so much during their four-year term. He said that the main reason is that the job involves so much lying, that the stress level reaches the highest point on a daily basis. He mentioned that there is no such thing as “one lie”. If you lie once, you have to remember that lie and make sure it comes out consistently on the next conversation, hence another lie. Pretty soon, you are living in a web of lies, and that mental effort is incredibly stressful. Sound familiar?
I’ve seen this not only in presidents, but also in most politicians, lawyers, sales people, and many others, including myself. According to Mr. Benner, even the small little white lies can build up and create the same stress levels. What’s the solution?
Like the song says: TELL IT LIKE IT IS.
When you buy something for $3.99, say “I bought it for $3.99”. Don’t say “I bought it for $4.00, don’t say $3.00”. Be exact on the truth. Tell it like it is.
When you tell it like it is; the exact truth, there is no going back to the issue. No arguments, no stress. The same time, effort and energy are used when either telling the truth or telling a lie. Why not just tell the truth? People respect you more because your statements and facts come out consistently. Most successful, respectable people I know share this common thread.
Do you constantly lie about your arrival times? How much effort and work you put into something? The weight you put on your driver’s license?
If you are overweight, and unless you have some kind of medical condition, there are usually two reasons. We all know it. We over eat, and don’t exercise enough! Some people grow up sooner than others. You can quote me on this: “Self- truthfulness is a good indication of growth.”
So on my drive that morning, Michael Benner goes on to talk about The Landers sisters. Ann and Abigail. We all know Dear Abby. We all know Dear Ann. The queens of advice! These two sisters have cornered the market on personal advice worldwide for years! But if you listen carefully and pay attention to their advise to most people’s problems, dilemmas, rants and raves, about eighty percent of them, is to “tell it like it is.” Go to any newspaper, television, or website advice columns. What’s the common advice?
Tell it like it is.
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